If you haven't yet seen this I beg you to take a moment to watch it. This is a powerful study of human behavior. Make sure you play it loudly and are in a quiet place. Pay close attention to this little one's face and eyes.
How many times have we just NOT interacted with our children and had our mind elsewhere?
Have you ever been trying to connect with someone and had very little reaction from them? Did you feel yourself losing it?? I know I have. It makes me crazy when I get the still face.
Do you tend to become still faced when you feel someone becoming too relational or doing something that makes you uncomfortable?
It matters.... How you react to your children deeply effects their behavior and emotions. How we connect with others effects our well being and emotions. Being "cool as a cucumber" isn't always all it's cracked up to be. When we are shut down and elusive we can essentially drive ourselves and others to terror simply by refusing to connect.
The very core of being human calls for closeness and connection.