Monday, August 13, 2007

Adopting An Older Child Series

I have had many wonderful people contact me wanting my input and experience on what it is like to adopt an older child from a foreign country. I am thrilled that so many of you out there are pondering this possibility. In response to this need I am going to start a series on adopting an older child. Please feel free to leave a comment with any specific questions you would like me to answer. I will write as many posts as I needed to address all the questions. Then I will have a link for all the posts so that I will have them available for those with questions in the future. I'll get cracking soon! :0) Angel

8 comments:

amber said...

Yay! I can't wait until you "get cracking" on this! You'll have to turn it all into a book someday. :)

I'll be thinking of more questions...

Amber

Aves @ Call of the Phoebe said...

How has the age span between Zoe and KK been. I am in the process of adopting a girl who on paper is 2 1/2, but actually I think she is either 3 1/2 or possibly even 4 1/2. If she is the oldest age that will make her 3 years older than my dd at home. So I am wondering how the age difference between the girls have affected their relationship.

Thanks in advance
Aves

Krystal said...

OK, here is my first round (I'm sure I'll have more):

-How did you introduce (in care packages and in person) yourselves to Zoe? I feel soooooo weird about "imposing" myself as "momma" to the boys. . . I just don't want to force anything, but at the same time, I want them to know that I love them.

-Where there any adjustment issues or attachment issues that you did NOT expect or prepare for? There are common themes that you read about, but was there anything big that wasn't in a book???

I am sooooooo looking forward to all of these Q & As!!!!

GDS said...

Great idea Angel!
Among so many other things, I'd be interested to hear about your experience adopting out of birth order. I've seen some comments elsewhere about this being a challenge, but I'm not really sure of the details - or even if that's true.

Also, considering Zoe's story, I wonder if also you've had to help her come to grips with this traumatic past.

Thanks so much!

Anonymous said...

No questions for you, but would love to hear more about this subject- I'll be reading your answers to other people's questions.
Thanks, Angel.

Megan

Wendy said...

I can't wait to read it. We didn't start out adopting an older child, but it sure looks like by the time we finish we will fall into that category!

Emily said...

You know I'm looking forward to hear what you have to say. Are there any books in particular that you would recommend reading on adopting the older child?

Anita said...

Angel, I first have to say that I am so glad I found your blog, just for your experience in older child adoption alone. I will be ravenously reading your "adopting an older child series!" We are starting our foster/adopt classes Sept 4 and plan to adopt an older child who is currently living in our state's foster care system awaiting their forever family. Reading books on the subjects of attachment and other "issues" can be daunting because it's always worse case scenarios it seems. As we are getting more active in our adoption journey, I will totally and completely spam you with questions... Waiting for you to get cracking! (hug)